50 Activities for Developing Emotional Intelligence

Introduction/ Table of Contents   

EQ #1 Champion or Chump   

Objectives:
. To help participants become familiar with the past feelings that certain leaders fostered
. To determine exactly what those leaders did to foster certain feelings


EQ #2 Importance Meter   

Objectives:
. To help participants recognize that we may unintentionally give different messages to our people regarding the importance of their job or task
. To visually represent where to place our efforts in order to improve the level of importance that we foster in our workplace


EQ #3 Adding Fuel to the Importance Meter   

Objectives
. To help participants recognize how each of their employees receive individual messages regarding the importance of their job or task
. To help participants determine influence and leadership strategies that will increase people's sense of importance
. When implemented on the job, a greater sense of relationship/bonding will occur between leader and follower


EQ #4 Rank Order Your Employees   

Objectives:
. To help participants recognize that they may hold certain positions/people in higher status than others within the work group
. To help participants determine if this status may indeed be visible on some level to employees
. To improve participants' awareness of the messages they may send to higher status and lower status employees
. Through awareness, this exercise will help lead participants to greater self-control in their interactions with people and improve empathy


EQ #5 Ask for Feedback   

Objectives:
. To help participants develop a greater awareness of their employees' perception
. To help participants gain a greater awareness of their strengths and weaknesses
. To improve relationships and bonds with employees by genuinely listening to their perceptions


EQ #6 Picture Yourself   

Objectives:
. To help participants visualize themselves in successful situations
. To encourage participants to act on their thoughts
. To build successes with employees by visualizing actions that are consistent with the goal of building employees' sense of importance


EQ #7 Personality Contest   

Objectives:
. To improve relationships and bonds with employees by heightening awareness of how our perceptions affect our relationships.
. To help participants improve motivation and inspiration levels for all employees
. To help participants realize that they may indeed be sending visible messages to employees that are not equal


EQ #8 Music of Our Workplace   

Objectives:
. To help participants verbalize the culture they perceive in their work units or departments by using music as a metaphor
. To encourage participants to try to shape their workplace culture by using music as a metaphor
. To encourage participants to verbalize to their employees their vision of a perfect workplace culture
. To open the lines of communication with employees and leaders regarding the underlying culture of their workplace


EQ #9 Coming Through   

Objectives
. To help participants acknowledge their emotions in the workplace
. To heighten awareness of the emotions that the leader has during the course of the workday
. To help participants recognize that their emotions impact others in the workplace
. To help participants recognize the appropriate time to express emotions in the workplace and the need for self-control regarding negative emotions


EQ #10 Open and Friendly vs. Friendship   

Objectives
. To help participants develop a sensitivity for developing a caring and open posture with employees
. To help participants define the professional limits of caring in the workplace
. To help participants build bonds but yet not compromise their role as leader


EQ #11 Listening Habits   

Objectives
. To help participants develop self-awareness related to their ability to listen
. To assist participants in the self-assessment of their listening skills
. To identify negative or disruptive listening patterns that interfere with building good bonds with employees


EQ #12 Genuine Listening   

Objectives
. To help participants develop empathy through improving listening skills
. To improve relationships and bonds with employees by improving our listening skills
. To practice genuine listening skills under stressful conditions


EQ #13 Tuning into Our Employees   

Objectives
. To help participants develop empathy through improving listening skills
. To improve relationships and bonds with employees by improving our listening skills
. To practice genuine listening skills


EQ #14 I Was Appreciated   

Objectives
. To help participants develop an understanding of the role that expressed sincere gratitude plays in developing people
. To help participants recognize that genuine expressed gratitude is a leadership skill
. To help participants realize that gratitude can lead to greater cooperation and collaboration between people


EQ #15 A Grateful Heart   

Objectives
. To help participants recognize the factors that influence their ability to think and assess situations with gratitude
. To encourage leaders to develop the grateful heart that is conducive to sincere expressed gratitude


EQ #16 Gifts   

Objectives
. To help participants recognize the positive attributes of employees
. To help leaders develop a grateful heart, thus enhancing their ability to influence and build bonds
. To help leaders look at the broad array of gifts that are needed for success in the workplace


EQ #17 Yes, But . . .   

Objectives
. To help participants determine their commitment to the idea of expressing positive emotions such as gratitude in the workplace
. To help participants determine the benefits of expressed gratitude in their workplaces and also to weigh the risks of such behavior
. To help leaders take the initiative to commit to such actions if they deem it useful


EQ #18 Common Mistakes with Gratitude   

Objectives
. To help participants distinguish between well-placed genuine expressions of gratitude and using gratitude for influence's sake
. To heighten participants' awareness of their motivation for expressinggratitude or other positive emotion
. To raise awareness of the feelings created by false gratitude


EQ #19 A Note of Thanks   

Objectives
. To help participants develop a habit of expressing heartfelt thanks in the workplace
. To assist participants in thinking in terms of gratitude, especially if they tend to think with a critical eye


EQ #20 Dumped On   

Objectives
. To help participants develop an understanding of the importance that employees place on fair and equal contributions in the workplace
. To generate an appreciation for leaders who expect fair contributions from all workers
. To understand the role that emotion plays on productivity


EQ #21 Doing a Fair Share   

Objectives
. To help participants assess the level of their employees' contributions in the workplace
. To help participants recognize the emotional impact that lower contributors or slackers have on good employees
. To understand the role the leader has on creating an environment that is perceived as fair


EQ #22 The Boss's Fair Share   

Objectives
. To help participants realize that their employees also have expectations for them
. To help participants recognize that sometime the employee's expectation may cause problems if the employee feels "let down" by the boss's  performance
. To understand that communication is critical regarding expectations, whether those expectations are expectations the employee has of the  boss or that the boss has of the employee


EQ #23 Action/Reaction   

Objectives
. To help participants realize the impact of their actions with different employees

. To help participants recognize the need for assessing the emotional impact of their actions before taking actions
. To understand the role the leader has on creating an emotionally positive environment


EQ #24 Take a Stand   

Objectives
. To help participants realize the importance of commitment toward a goal
. To help participants recognize that commitment toward a goal is a hallmark of leadership
. To understand the damage done by sending mixed messages to employees regarding goals


EQ #25 I Value, We Value   

Objectives
. To help participants realize their role in reinforcing and encouraging the workplace values that are in place in their work unit
. To help participants recognize that incongruent values send mixed messages to followers, creating confusion or even anger


EQ #26 Contribution Spirit Killers   

Objectives
. To help participants identify the known "spirit killers" in the workplace
. To help participants recognize that these known "spirit killers" can create negative workplace cultures
. To help leaders recognize the known "spirit killers" in their own behavior


EQ #27 You Expect Me to What?   

Objectives
. To help participants identify the expectations employees have of them in the workplace
. To help participants recognize that these expectations are important to the employees and that living up to the employees' expectations builds trust bonds
. To help leaders recognize that open communication is critical for high trust relationships


EQ #28 Great Vision   

Objectives
. To help participants develop an understanding of the qualities associated with great vision
. To help participants assess these qualities against their own strengths in this area
. To help participants determine how vision affects their role as a leader


EQ #29 My Vision   

Objectives
. To help participants develop or refine their vision for their workplace unit or department
. To help participants use words or phrases to connect their thoughts to their vision


EQ #30 Inspiring Words   

Objectives
. To help participants create words that inspire their followers and connect them to the leader's vision
. To help participants recognize the power of words in connecting followers to the leader's vision
. To elevate the significance of words as a tool for leaders to use for inspiring followers


EQ #31 Sharing Your Vision   

Objectives
. To help participants realize the importance of sharing their vision with those that they interact with
. To help ingrain the thought that vision must be communicated often for most impact


EQ #32 Who Invents?    

Objectives
. To help participants realize the need to invite employees to join in the vision
. To help participants recognize that they may dominate the vision and, therefore, cause the employees not to engage in the work


EQ #33 Visions Apply to People Too   

Objectives
. To help participants realize that their vision of employees has a great deal to do with the success that the employees achieve
. To help leaders recognize that when they have a negative vision of their employees, they are communicating it on some level


EQ #34 Vision Spirit Killers   

Objectives
. To help participants identify the known "vision spirit killers" in the workplace
. To help participants recognize that these known "vision spirit killers" can create negative workplace cultures
. To help leaders recognize the known "vision spirit killers" in their own behavior


EQ #35 Advice from the Pros   

Objectives
. To help participants identify actions that they could take to strengthen their vision
. To help participants gain perspective and look outside themselves to find answers to their leadership challenges


EQ #36 Working toward the Vision   

Objectives
. To help participants visually place their employees in line with the vision
. To help participants assess which employees are in line with the vision and which employees need coaching toward the vision


EQ #37 Advice from Employees   

Objectives
. To help participants gain personal awareness of some of the vision killers that employees perceive in the workplace
. To help participants assess their personal strengths and weaknesses related to vision
. To help participants determine actions that they would like to change related to vision


EQ #38 Today's Actions toward the Vision   

Objectives
. To help participants determine if they are taking daily actions toward the vision
. To help participants assess which actions seem to be working to engage people toward the vision


EQ #39 Fuel the Vision   

Objectives
. To help participants learn some methods recommended by employees that can be used to fuel the vision
. To help participants assess areas they could implement for increasing vision


EQ #40 Picture Yourself   

Objectives
. To help participants prioritize their energy
. To help participants determine what actions could best further their vision


EQ #41 Lessons from Low Points/High Points   

Objectives
. To deepen participant's awareness of the significance of being a leader
. To help participants learn from previous experiences, both good and bad, and draw on those experiences to become a better leader


EQ #42 It's My Show   

Objectives
. To deepen participant's awareness of the need for a leader's actions and beliefs to be congruent
. To help participants learn that ultimately each leader must find his or her own style
. To encourage leaders to think about the importance of independent thinking
 


EQ #43 Interior Power   

Objectives
. To introduce the concept of interior power and its impact on leadership
. To help participants determine ways to strengthen their interior power


EQ #44 Control and Empowerment   

Objectives
. To encourage participants to be aware of their need for control
. To determine the primary reasons we wish to control others and to examine the impact of that control


EQ #45 Steps for Growth   

Objectives
. To help participants establish a pattern for assessing their personal learning as it relates to leadership
. To help participants realize that the principles of lifelong learning apply to leadership


EQ #46 Spirit Killers That Stunt Your Growth   

Objectives
. To help participants discuss and consider the most common spirit killers that stunt a leader's growth
. To help participants strategize ways to stop the spirit killers from robbing our development as leaders


EQ #47 Your Most Inspired Self   

Objectives
. To deepen participant's self-confidence and self-awareness
. To help participants appreciate their best leadership qualities and to feel grateful for these qualities


EQ #48 Your Leadership Coat of Arms   

Objectives
. To deepen participants' self-confidence and self-awareness
. To help participants appreciate their best leadership qualities and to feel grateful for these qualities


EQ #49 More Reflections   

Objectives
. To deepen participants self-awareness and leadership philosophy
. To help participants articulate the leadership qualities that they value most


EQ #50 The Power of Pictures   

Objectives
. To help participants visualize the leadership philosophy and values that they consider most important
. To boost the leader's self-confidence regarding his or her leadership

 

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